They can be found nowhere on the campuses, service shops, and in the education and healthcare fields, or press and media organizations. A few of them can be seen at Narantuul Market. Where are they?
The population of Mongolia is 2.9 million, of which 1.4 million are men. According to this ratio, there is no big difference between gender relations. Unfortunately, in high school, with the exception of physical education, almost all other subjects are taught by female teachers. In the field of healthcare, men are very rarely found. According to the latest statistics, in healthcare organizations 36,000 of 45,000 workers are women.
Last year, 174,000 students graduated from local universities, and over 100,000 graduates were women. A total of 21,000 people earned master’s and doctoral degrees, one third of whom were men. It is an increased number of men who sought higher education compared to previous years. In high school, the ratio between female and male students has almost no gap. But what is the problem behind men becoming less likely to earn degrees in the future: Mongolians say that for men it is not that necessary to pursue education because they can handle life, no matter what. This may be one reason. On the other hand, the reason may be the laziness and the lack of hardworking character among men.
Nowadays, about 100,000 Mongolians work and live in foreign countries, more than half of them are men. Most of them live and work in South Korea, where 30,000 Mongolians work and live. In the USA there are about 20,000, and in the Czech Republic there are about 5,000 Mongols. Among the people who go to foreign countries, only one or two out of 20 Mongols are women. Dedicating their youth, labor and their education to foreigners, there are still people who come back home with nothing.
So, some men go to foreign countries, but where are the others? Hard to say, but many are in prison. There are 22,000 people who committed crimes, and 19,000 were men, mostly between the ages of 18 to 29. At the moment, there are 25 prisons. Since crime is rising instead of decreasing, we may need more prisons.
There are 81,000 moms who raise their children by themselves. Where did these fathers go? It is very sad that many of them left their wives and children. A girl from Bayankhongor aimag wrote, “I don’t want to be with my father. I study in fifth grade. I would like to tell my dad, please do not drink alcohol. If you stop, mom and I would feel good. To drink without working will not lead to good things. My mom does everything by herself.” How many other kids want their fathers to come back home?
Family expert and Dr. T.Namjil said that by conducting research on family issues it has been shown that men tend to be discriminated against in the family because of the idea that fathers are the only ones who earn money. Fathers who work in foreign countries and are not able to be with their children can become distant from their families. In a survey of 200 general education school students, 69 percent answered “a father must have time to play with his kids”, and 84.5 percent said, “a father must take care of his children and play his role in raising kids”.
At this point, what kids really want from their father looks really simple. Walking on the streets of Ulaanbaatar, we become familiar with people who look “bad” and “poor”. These men must begin to live differently.
There are 1.2 million people who are between the ages of 20 to 44, and 625,000 of them are men. Last year, a survey showed that 42.7 thousand men were unemployed. Some of them are drunk in the streets and some of them have nothing to do. Where are the real Mongol men?
Of course, there are numbers of men who have made the country famous, such as athletes, peacekeepers, soldiers, scientists, doctors and politicians, of whom we will always be proud. A Mongolian saying suggests, “For the woman is the husband; for the family is the father; for the country, the men are the most important people of the nation.” Where are the men who will lead the country, as well as their lives?